Now thatJada Pinkett Smithhas built her own relationship with husbandWill Smith‘s child from his first marriage, Trey, she’s making sure she has no bad blood with his ex-wife,Sheree Fletcher.In a Facebook Live video on Wednesday night, part of herRed Table Talk Facebook Watchseries, the actress, 47, talked about “debunking divorce” with her mother, Adrienne Banfield-Jones, and psychotherapist Stacey Kaiser.Jason Mendez/GettyKaiser and Smith started off the discussion on the same page, with the medical professional insisting that new and old partners getting along is crucial. “You wouldn’t be dating that person if it weren’t for the person they broke up with,” Kaiser said.Then Smith hopped in, explaining, “One of the coping mechanisms for me was Sheree. She gifted me. She really did, she gifted me and I treated her, I started to put that into my psychology — ‘She’s not an enemy.’ ”In addition, the mother of two said that she was eventually able to see Fletcher asmorethan someone who allowed her to marry Will.Bertrand Rindoff Petroff/Getty“She did me a favor, but then on top of that I had to go on to a deeper psychology of ‘She’s Trey’s mother’ as my relationship with Trey deepened,” Smith mused. “There are steps. I had to develop my relationship with Trey. So as I developed my relationship with Trey, and got a deep love for Trey, then it became about [something bigger]. Because at first, it’s a good idea [to get along with your spouse’s ex], but that’s not the thing that always holds you.”Even though it was Trey, now 26 years old, who sealed Smith’s commitment to staying friendly with his mother, the journey wasn’t without struggle.Trae Patton/NBC/GettySmith continued: “Until that relationship really develops and you really start to see the importance and you really have a care for that child and that does become your primary [concern] — I’ve had to go through many different stages of getting to good places.”She concluded, “It’s a process. It’s very difficult coming into a dynamic like that, and it doesn’t stop.”TheGirls Tripstar has talked about Fletcher in the past. In fact, Fletcher was the first guest on the debut episode ofRed Table Talk, during whichthe pair recalled an exceptionally hard time in their friendship.Bryan Steffy/WireImage“Do you remember that conversation we had on the phone that one time?” Pinkett Smith asked Fletcher. “They were fighting words.”RELATED VIDEO: Jada Pinkett Smith Is Back With ‘Red Table Talks’ and Nothing Is Off LimitsFletcher said she had called the house to speak with her then-3-year-old son when Pinkett Smith answered the phone.“Very few times in my life I can recall being checked real hard where I didn’t have nothing to say,” said Fletcher. “But you weren’t out of line.”Fletcher admitted that she wasn’t “respectful” when she called, and Pinkett Smith didn’t take kindly to her attitude.“You basically let me know, ‘I don’t really appreciate your tone,’ ” she recalled. “And you hung up on me.”When Fletcher called back, things only escalated.“I happened to say, ‘B—- you living in the house I picked out,” said Fletcher. “You said, ‘It’s my house now.’ “Bryan Steffy/WireImagePinkett Smith said things got so heated that her husband had to step in.“Will Smithlet me have it,” said Pinkett Smith. “His take was, ‘That is Trey’s mother, and that’s just not your place.’ “And it seems his words really sunk in. Fletcher said the next time the women saw it each other they made and effort to mend their relationship.“You would always say Re, I apologize,” said Fletcher. “You always owned it. Thank you for that.”
Now thatJada Pinkett Smithhas built her own relationship with husbandWill Smith‘s child from his first marriage, Trey, she’s making sure she has no bad blood with his ex-wife,Sheree Fletcher.
In a Facebook Live video on Wednesday night, part of herRed Table Talk Facebook Watchseries, the actress, 47, talked about “debunking divorce” with her mother, Adrienne Banfield-Jones, and psychotherapist Stacey Kaiser.
Jason Mendez/Getty
Kaiser and Smith started off the discussion on the same page, with the medical professional insisting that new and old partners getting along is crucial. “You wouldn’t be dating that person if it weren’t for the person they broke up with,” Kaiser said.
Then Smith hopped in, explaining, “One of the coping mechanisms for me was Sheree. She gifted me. She really did, she gifted me and I treated her, I started to put that into my psychology — ‘She’s not an enemy.’ ”
In addition, the mother of two said that she was eventually able to see Fletcher asmorethan someone who allowed her to marry Will.
Bertrand Rindoff Petroff/Getty
“She did me a favor, but then on top of that I had to go on to a deeper psychology of ‘She’s Trey’s mother’ as my relationship with Trey deepened,” Smith mused. “There are steps. I had to develop my relationship with Trey. So as I developed my relationship with Trey, and got a deep love for Trey, then it became about [something bigger]. Because at first, it’s a good idea [to get along with your spouse’s ex], but that’s not the thing that always holds you.”
Even though it was Trey, now 26 years old, who sealed Smith’s commitment to staying friendly with his mother, the journey wasn’t without struggle.
Trae Patton/NBC/Getty
Smith continued: “Until that relationship really develops and you really start to see the importance and you really have a care for that child and that does become your primary [concern] — I’ve had to go through many different stages of getting to good places.”
She concluded, “It’s a process. It’s very difficult coming into a dynamic like that, and it doesn’t stop.”
TheGirls Tripstar has talked about Fletcher in the past. In fact, Fletcher was the first guest on the debut episode ofRed Table Talk, during whichthe pair recalled an exceptionally hard time in their friendship.
Bryan Steffy/WireImage
“Do you remember that conversation we had on the phone that one time?” Pinkett Smith asked Fletcher. “They were fighting words.”
RELATED VIDEO: Jada Pinkett Smith Is Back With ‘Red Table Talks’ and Nothing Is Off Limits
Fletcher said she had called the house to speak with her then-3-year-old son when Pinkett Smith answered the phone.
“Very few times in my life I can recall being checked real hard where I didn’t have nothing to say,” said Fletcher. “But you weren’t out of line.”
Fletcher admitted that she wasn’t “respectful” when she called, and Pinkett Smith didn’t take kindly to her attitude.
“You basically let me know, ‘I don’t really appreciate your tone,’ ” she recalled. “And you hung up on me.”
When Fletcher called back, things only escalated.
“I happened to say, ‘B—- you living in the house I picked out,” said Fletcher. “You said, ‘It’s my house now.’ “
Pinkett Smith said things got so heated that her husband had to step in.
“Will Smithlet me have it,” said Pinkett Smith. “His take was, ‘That is Trey’s mother, and that’s just not your place.’ “
And it seems his words really sunk in. Fletcher said the next time the women saw it each other they made and effort to mend their relationship.
“You would always say Re, I apologize,” said Fletcher. “You always owned it. Thank you for that.”
source: people.com
